Personal Development


Encourage: To inspire with courage, spirit or hope.

One thing my parents were always proud to tell me about my childhood was they rarely had to punish me because I was so good at self-punishment. I am sure that made their life a little easier as they didn’t feel the need to dole out punishment. What they overlooked was all of the harm that happened from my own self-punishment.

I got really good at beating myself up because I couldn’t meet my own expectations. Any criticism that came from an ex…

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Training To Be Happy


Training As a Spiritual Athlete

This may seem like a strange thing to say, but I am going to say it anyway. I am training to be happy. I am learning to allow myself to feel good and notice when I feel bad.

I have conditioned myself over the years to be unhappy. My prior conditioning has led me to believe that when I am happy it makes other people sad.

The truth is I am only responsible for my own happiness. If someone is dependent on me for their happiness, that is on them. They have not done…

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The Myth of Being Perfect


I grew up with the erroneous belief that when I do something it has to be done perfectly. It got in my head that the only way to be of value to the world was to be perfect. 

These conditioned beliefs have kept me playing small and shrinking back. It has held me back from taking chances for fear that people may find out I am anything but perfect.

I read a quote the other day from a book called “God is Not a Christian, Nor a Jew, Muslim, Hindu…” by Bishop Carlton Pearson that deeply resonated wi…

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Allowing My Creative Expression


I am in the midst of recovering from a bout of vertigo. It’s something I have never experienced before and hope to never experience again. It has thrown me off balance physically and knocked me off center emotionally. It has been a month of room spins feeling disoriented.

As frustrating as it has been, there is a lesson I am being shown as I listen to my Higher Self. I am trying to understand what the possibility is for growth and expansion from this awful feeling of the spins.

This is the les…

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I Am Always Enough & So Are You


The world screamed at me that I am not enough the other day. The voices inside my head infiltrated my mind.

“I am not enough, I never have been and I never will be!”

I found myself shopping for new clothes, something I haven’t done for years. I purged all of my pharmaceuticals suits and dress clothes when I left behind the corporate world.

I was in need of an updated wardrobe for a wedding. It’s not that I am against buying new clothes, it’s just that it isn’t how I am choosing to spend my mo…

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Letting Two Milliseconds Define Me


Dear Friend,

As I rekindle my passion for golf I am realizing some habitual patterns that keep showing up in my life.

Some of those habits serve my greater good and some of those habits have kept me locked in a cage feeling extremely limited.

One of my most recent moments of realization came after an almost three hour sweat drenched practice session on the practice green working on my chipping. 

I am going to use a word that most golfers and athletes despise.  It’s called the yips. 

If you …

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The Power of Intuitive Body Wisdom


About two weeks ago I let go of my wrist slave, aka my Fitbit.

I think there is still a place for the Fitbit in our daily lives and I may go back to it at some time, but for now I am choosing to tap into the power of my intuitive body wisdom. 

What has become most important to me is to get in tune with my body wisdom asking myself simple questions like how much sleep do I need and how can I optimize it?

Something I have struggled with off and on for years.

My Fitbit can’t answer that for me.…

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Less Is More


I have never been one to rush around as I find it very stressful.

I have never been one to pack too many things into my schedule because I like to create space in my life to have some down time.

I have never been a big fan of clutter as a cluttered closet represents a cluttered mind.

I enjoy and appreciate a less is more lifestyle. 

That didn’t happen by accident. I have been very intentional in creating a less is more lifestyle. 

I have carved out three days a week to work with my clients.…

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Be The Truth

I have been in the health, fitness, nutrition and sports performance industry for thirty years.

Dare I call myself an expert or a master in this field? I am not sure if that is up to me to decide or if it even matters how I label myself. 

How I took a chance on myself recently is to allow myself to be a beginner again. 

After three hard crashes on my gravel bike late last year, I came across a practice called Qi Gong.

I was looking for a kinder and gentler way to exercise, but still get all …

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I Am A Writer


I am a writer who struggles to write.

That isn’t true.

When I sit down to write, writing is easy.

The hard part is the actual sitting down.

I wonder why that is?

It’s fear of course.

Fear of rejection.

Fear of being vulnerable.

Fear of looking stupid.

Fear of what you will think of me.

Fear of unworthiness.

Is that enough fear?

I think so.

But as my ego gets stripped away…slowly ever so slowly.

I am called to write. 

For me.

And then to share it. 

Not because I need you to like …

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