Stop Shrinking Back


For as long as I can remember I have always been overly concerned about what people think about me.  A chronic people pleaser.  A Christian nice guy.  I wanted people to like me so I could feel good about myself and get validation through others.  As a result of this I would shrink back and play small.  Not a very powerful way to live. 

I didn’t take criticism well.  I would get defensive.  I would make their stuff my stuff and go into a completely diminished state of being. 

Can you relate?  Playing small and shrinking back is such a common theme in our world.  The settling for mediocrity and the status quo. 


As I have been evolving and growing over the last several years I am starting to understand what it takes to play big in this world.  To show up fully giving my gifts to the world.   I realized doing anything less than this is cheating myself, my community and displeasing to God. 

During my quiet time this morning I came across this scripture that I had never seen before and it hit me like a ton of bricks.  In fact, in all honesty, I had tears streaming down my face.  “And, But my righteous one will live by faith.  And I take no pleasure in the one who shrinks back.” Hebrews 10:38

Wow.  That hit me right between the eyes.  I take no pleasure in the one who shrinks back.  God is asking us to play big.  To step up and make a difference in the world.  To leave a legacy.  To use the gifts and talents he created us for.  Anything less than that is not honoring to ourselves or to God. 

The great thing is that we don’t have to play big under our own strength.  That is what I have done in the past.  To strive, to analyze, to try and figure things out.  That has only left me stressed, tired and the complete feeling of inadequacy. 

I now realize its God working in me and through me.  My only job is to submit to His will.  To “allow” him to work through me.  My job is to trust and obey and then to know I will be eternally rewarded in the end. 

I am done shrinking back.  I am done playing small.  A great quote from Nelson Mandela says, “There is no passion to be found playing small-in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”


How am I going to show up big in the world?  I am committed to growing my fitness ministry and coaching business beyond what I can even imagine.  To build a platform that leaves a legacy and honors God.  I am committed to getting out of my comfort zone on a daily basis and do things that scare me to death.  Where I get butterflies and sweaty palms. 

But the cool thing about this journey is that I can’t fail.  It’s impossible to fail.  I can learn a lot, but I can’t fail.  I don’t need you to like me.  I don’t need you to believe in my message.  It may not be for everyone.  For the first time in my life, I am OK with that.  I am not here to offend anyone, I am here to just simply be me and for the first time in my life, I actually like me.  In fact I love me.  I am finally starting to see myself the way God sees me. 

What’s keeping you from playing big?  Why do you keep shrinking back and living a life that doesn’t excite you?  I want to challenge you to get your sense of adventure back.   How about a physical challenge.  Sign up for a 10K, plan to climb a fourteener, learn a new sport.  Reclaim your inner warrior and get that feeling back of feeling fully alive. 

I am working with a just a select few clients as my time is limited who want to reclaim their inner warrior through physical adventure.  I guarantee you will be transformed physically, mentally and spiritually.  You will start to show up big in the world and make an impact you never thought possible. 

Reach out to me at to take that first step of living the life you were created to live.

Troy Ismir, MS

Spiritual Warrior Coach




There are no comments yet. Be the first one to leave a comment!