I am a very driven person. I have always found a way to be successful in my career or in athletics. I would push myself by learning whatever I needed to do to become successful at it. I remember the first year I transitioned out of health and fitness full time and into pharmaceutical sales. A decision I made that I felt was in the best interest of my young family at the time.
The first year of pharmaceutical sales I hated it. I didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning and face the rejection of people not wanting to see me. I went from getting paid $80 an hour for my personal training and relationship skills to having the door shut in my face because doctors didn’t have the time to see me. I was so frustrated and dejected.
But, I knew this was the choice I made so I had to find a way to be successful at my new chosen career. I kept just showing up and treated every one with compassion and kindness. Eventually I built trust with the office staff and the doctors and after a year things started to change. I felt like I was starting to make an impact. My patience, persistence and inner drive led me to 17 years of great success in the pharmaceutical industry.
I have since transitioned out of pharmaceutical sales and now I am starting another career as an entrepreneur. I have started a fitness ministry in Northern Colorado after living in Orlando for 20 years. Of course I am going to need a certain level of drive to be successful, but I am being shown in the six months that I have been in Colorado that it is going to take so much more than inner drive.
I have a tendency to want to do things under my own power and my own strength. I drive and I push. What I am being shown since I moved to Fort Collins, both personally and professionally, that my dreams and my vision for my ministry and my personal life are way bigger than what I can do on my own.
I have been divorced for over 7 seven years and one of my biggest prayers is to be in a relationship with a woman who loves the Lord and draws me closer to Him. Where we can seek first the Kingdom of God together. I have met some amazing women along the way and for whatever reason those relationships haven’t worked out and have ended in heartbreak. In some cases I have been trying to force the issue, moving too fast and not trusting the process for the relationship to play out the way God intends.
What I am learning is that faith is more about allowing than forcing. I came across a daily devotion by Pastor Rick Warren that I would like to share with you. The main point is instead of trying harder we trust more. He identified four ways of what surrendering your life to God means.
1. Following God’s lead without knowing where he is sending you.
2. Waiting for God’s timing without knowing when it will come.
3. Expecting a miracle without knowing how God will provide.
4. Trusting God’s purpose without understanding the circumstances.
Psalm 37:7 says, “Surrender yourself to the Lord and wait patiently for Him.” What if we lived each day with childlike anticipation of expecting a miracle from God without knowing how that will happen? Every time I think that way I get a huge smile on my face. But I am also reminded that each breath I take is a miracle and the grace of God is a miracle in and of itself along with the gift of eternal life.
So as I wait in childlike anticipation for my wife to be, I will not try harder, I will trust more. I know you are out there and I can’t wait to meet you and who knows maybe we have already crossed paths somehow.
My prayer is that God is working in your heart just like he has been working in mine to prepare us for a relationship that truly honors God and furthers His Kingdom. I will wait for your timing without knowing when it will come. I will follow your lead without knowing where you are sending me. I will expect a miracle without knowing how it will come. I will trust your purpose for me without understanding the circumstances.
I am surrendered to you Lord and I will wait patiently for my wife to be and my fitness ministry to flourish. I will stop trying so hard and will trust more.
What area of your life needs to be surrendered to God? Your health? Your finances? Your relationships? Any strongholds or addictions? Try the approach of not trying harder and trusting more. Allow rather than force. It is a freeing feeling.
If this is an area you are struggling in, I would love to help. Please send me an e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org. My mission is to help men have faith in themselves through faith in God so we can live the powerful lives we were created to live.
Troy Ismir, MS
Men’s Health Coach and Personal Trainer
Helping men have faith in themselves through faith in God.